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This podcast was produced by B Haywood for Confirmed Podcast Network. Hey y'all, what up? Welcome back to we. Them Girls Podcast. That girl Mel here.
Speaker 2:Annabelle in the cut.
Speaker 1:And we back with another solo episode. It's been a little minute since we did a solo episode Couple weeks, I feel like it's been longer than that it's definitely been longer than that Been busy.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I like a little solo episode. Yeah, it's lit. Kicking with my homegirl Uh huh, kicking with my homegirl. How y'all feeling what?
Speaker 2:y'all been doing what y'all been up to.
Speaker 1:What you been up to.
Speaker 2:Girl Glad to be done partying and traveling.
Speaker 1:Listen, and life is not for the weak At all. I said it's what I want my life to be done partying and traveling. Listen, and life is not for the weak At all. I said that's what I want my life to be, but child I wouldn't prefer. A little balance. I need balance.
Speaker 2:I need to travel. Come home and then sleep and then do it again, yeah.
Speaker 1:The traveling back to back to back to back to back and then coming back to party For a week straight, and you gotta work To be much. It was just a lot. Back to back to back, to back to back, and then coming back to party for a week straight and you gotta work to be much. It was just a lot, um, good time. So, yeah, it was lit for sure. So for y'all that, you know, don't know, maybe gotta catch up, maybe y'all just hopping on the train, um, we went on a little mini tour, went on a mini tour. It was fun, though it was a good time.
Speaker 2:Each trip had something different going on. I like it.
Speaker 1:It wasn't all for the same thing. We went on a little work slash education trip Continue y'all's education if you're her stylist. Do that. It's so important. It's not only important for you to get like new information, but it like reinvigorates you as a stylist like because get you excited.
Speaker 2:Yeah, ever since I've been excited, well, it's kind of been like yeah, yeah, I'm excited about the knowledge of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and like just being around so many of your peers in the industry, meeting new people networking, it was just a good time. Y'all need to network in the city.
Speaker 2:Y'all need to come to the industry nights once a month on Monday.
Speaker 1:It's what, every last Monday of the month, at the gathering place where we can gather, gather amongst each other, y'all need to come on, it's a good time. It's a good time.
Speaker 2:I got to work it last time and not be a part of the mix for real.
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Speaker 2:I looked in the mirror and my hair was in the middle of my back.
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Speaker 1:You see, and it's not a game. They're not lying to you, ain't no guesswork. So yeah, we did that, we did the why? My mind just go blank.
Speaker 2:We went to the Hearst Symposium. We came back, we went to NES. I was trying to think of what it was.
Speaker 1:We went to Punta Cana.
Speaker 2:Punta.
Speaker 1:Cana was a time. Y'all. Punta Cana was a time that was a birthday trip. Shout out to EJ and Christina. It was a joint birthday trip. Good time the whole time. Good time the whole time. Get you some friends that you can actually travel with and have a good time the whole time.
Speaker 2:A ball, it rained and we had a ball, had a ball, Me and Melzy. I found them ATVs. We was hoping for more mud. I said her.
Speaker 1:We need some more mud. We had a good time. We swam in a natural cave. It had a natural swimming pool inside this cave and it had a waterfall, so cave and it had a waterfall, so that was everything rum tasting.
Speaker 2:Rum tasting was one of my favorite.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love the rum taste because now I feel like I can really know what I'm talking about when I'm swirling around smelling oh yeah we learned how to smell the rum, how to, uh, smell the different notes, taste the different notes, um, which rums were stronger and how to, like, subside the burn If your palate was sweet or salty. It was a good time, cigars we smoked cigars. It was a good time. We went snorkeling. Now, y'all, I'm going to need some swim lessons.
Speaker 1:Now I panicked a little, but yeah, I panicked in the shallow water. It was like five feet. Now I'm going to need some swim lessons Now. I panicked a little but, yeah, I panicked in the shallow water. It was like five feet. Now I'm only 5'1", so and. I'm 5'9", but I was standing on my tippy toes.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:It had to be more than five feet. Yeah, because when he told, when I looked under him, when he told me to come where he was wanting me to come it where he was wanting me to come to, it was bricks set up, I guess, for you to kind of stand on. You can see, I said I don't care about none of it, take me back to the boat.
Speaker 2:Y'all was under there and I was feeding the fish and I got so close I was like trying to touch I looked under there like twice.
Speaker 1:It's's so clear. It's weird. It's a weird learning curve to breathe through the mouth hose thing and not like Because I was definitely swallowing all that salt water and that water was saltier than a mug.
Speaker 2:Oh, we had coconut water that was good, that was so good Out of the real coconuts. Yeah, with the sugar, and they poured rum in there, it was so good.
Speaker 1:I was like okay.
Speaker 2:You tasted it without the rum.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, yeah, I tasted it without the rum and then I had it with the rum, but it was good. Both ways. Yeah, mm-hmm, we did the little boat ride that was fun. The party the party boat, the pink pool party. The pink pool party. If you go to Punta Cana and you stay in Rio, go to that pink pool party Because we had a ball that was solid and all the music was good. Yeah, I mean it's going to have a little techno to it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it was a good time and all the music was good. Yeah, I mean it's gonna have a little Techno to it. Yeah, but it was a good time. We had so much fun Food. My stomach hurt for about a week. Yeah, we all got a little, a little uneasy, some of us got a little sick.
Speaker 2:My stomach still a little messed up for real all right now and again, I guess because we had ate so many carbs like that got an intolerance.
Speaker 1:Now stomach is still doing some weird stuff but, um, outside of that it was a good time. Then came, came back, went to Atlanta. We went for a healing summit that my mom was speaking at and that, yeah, it was so good.
Speaker 2:It was so good.
Speaker 1:My favorite part was hearing the men talk yes. Yes, that was my favorite. It was because it gave them a chance to be vulnerable. And it was older men you never get a chance to speak to older men about like their emotions and how they handle them and how you should in a relationship, how they would prefer to be treated as a man.
Speaker 1:I thought it was very insightful, so that part was pretty dope to me. My mom got presented with the Presidential Lifetime Achievement Award, signed by Joe Biden and Kamala Harris. That was dope and we just Harris that was it was dope and we just thought we was going to work A merch table.
Speaker 2:We thought we was going to be Sitting outside the whole time, right?
Speaker 1:But no, that was really good. I got two new reads.
Speaker 2:I need to Open them.
Speaker 1:Then we went to Change Church In Atlanta.
Speaker 1:I was so excited To go there Because I've been Following his ministry for a long time on YouTube and me and my mom. He did a pop-up before he actually opened the church in Atlanta. He did a pop-up in Atlanta and me and my mama rode up there and went to that and so to be able to go to the actual building and go to service day. That was really good. It was just as good, if not better, in person, and he made the word so simple yeah, you ain't got to do all that. He made the word so simple. Pastor Darius Daniels, y'all go follow uh Chinese church or Darius Daniels on YouTube. All them sermons gonna hit.
Speaker 2:I need to listen to some more about trap doors, yeah, and just cause it's a good door don't mean it's a God door shout it was good.
Speaker 1:And then we came back and did it up for Darby, did it up Starting on Tuesday when we get back. Yeah, okay, we're going to tell y'all what all we did for Darby.
Speaker 2:Child. I'm tired thinking about it. It literally has taken me all week to recover Like all week.
Speaker 1:I can't drink, not another drop. I'm still tired. I thought about it. I bought me some wine in Target, but it's still sitting in the car because I'm Drank out.
Speaker 2:Drinking water Started at the wine fest on Tuesday at wine fest, if you if you come to Louisville during derby time and it's on a Tuesday, get you a ticket to that wine fest please get you a ticket to that wine fest.
Speaker 1:Mmm, I will be back next year definitely for sure they give you a book of tickets and the book of tickets it had to be. It was at least 20 tickets. At least 20 tickets, probably more than that I think it was 20, 25, and then it was about 25 it probably was, cause each ticket was a sample of one.
Speaker 1:so they have all of these different um, um, are they vineyards, mm-hmm? All these different vineyards set up, booths set up and you can just go stand in line and give them a ticket. They give you whatever wine you want to taste, or?
Speaker 2:whatever, my favorite was that Chenault Vineyard with that Sunday best wine.
Speaker 1:Child, I need some of that Sunday Best Wine. We're going to have to go where, yeah, but yeah.
Speaker 2:We was tore up y'all, tore, and then, when I was walking into the building, two ladies was walking out and they had half a book left, so I had two books of tickets.
Speaker 1:It was two ladies that gave me some of their tickets. It was two ladies that gave me some of their tickets. One lady gave me like a few of them, then another lady gave me like a half a sleeve of tickets, deanna, I think she used up all her tickets.
Speaker 2:I did.
Speaker 1:I gave like. I saw a girl I knew, so I gave her like three Because she was asking how many to try or which one should she try at the Chinook.
Speaker 2:And I said, girl, try all five of them. And I think she had like two tickets, so I gave her like three.
Speaker 1:I said try all of them and I still had like two or three left.
Speaker 1:I still. I had some tickets left just because I was like, yeah, I can't drink no more Shoot Because I had to pee really bad at the end. And then I came back out and I think I tried one more after I used the bathroom, and I think I tried one more after I used the bathroom and I was like I think I'm good, like I don't. I've never been wine drunk either. You've never been wine drunk, not like that. I've never been that wine drunk.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that was a bit much.
Speaker 1:That was a lot of wine, yeah, oh, and they had appetizers. Yeah, hors d'oeuvres A little head cup of Chicken salad sandwiches. They had Chicken salad chick, chicken salad chick and then, oh, the PF chains, pf chains. They lettuce wraps, oh that lettuce, y'all know they lettuce wraps Be fire if you eat that PF chains. So they had some of them. They had some cookie, little cookie truck outside. Those cookies were fire. They had a few different places. We missed some of them, but get there on time if you gonna go to the wine fest.
Speaker 1:Get there on time so that you can try all of the wines and don't feel like you rushed trying to use up all your tickets cause that's why I had to hurry up. It was almost like I wanted to try everybody that was a good time. So then Thursday we went to Thurby, we went to Churchill Downs. So they have like, if you're not from here, they have races All week, and I think I think Downs After Dark is racist too.
Speaker 2:So, like I feel like they all summer.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I think Derby week they start with like the opening day or something. Then they have like 502 day, something else. Derby, which is my personal fave. Honestly, that's the only one I've been to. So it's going to be my fave for right now.
Speaker 2:Oaks, and then.
Speaker 1:Derby Day. We was cute. We was real cute. You know we're going to put it on. We told y'all before Derby is're going to put it on. We told y'all before Derby is that time to put that shit on? But baby, it was 1,000 degrees outside.
Speaker 2:I had one drink. That's all you needed. That's all I needed, and I had that refresher and I'm glad that refresher was as big as it was.
Speaker 1:I had dog the whole thing. Yeah yeah, it was hot, hot, it was like 89 degrees or something. Outside, people was passing out left and right, getting wheeled out in wheelchairs and stretchers and they first of all a lot of people get toe up at the track tore down. They don't care that them drinks is $20, $30. No, and then a lot of people get the ticket that has all the drinks included or whatever. So they're getting hammered.
Speaker 2:Hammered Slizzard.
Speaker 1:On the goose, on everything. And it's lady, it's white lady, peed on herself.
Speaker 2:Oh man, You're so old baby.
Speaker 1:She ain't gonna.
Speaker 2:I mean they don't know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1:First of all, she done came out the emergency room place, tore down and she's like trying to talk to us or whatever. I let her talk to my mama, because my mama talk to anybody. I was like, all right, it's time to go. So I get up, I turn around, so I see the back of her dress, whole back of her dress, soaking wet. Why you, if you get?
Speaker 2:that drunk she was loose as a goose.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm saying, like, if you get that drunk, that's really the definition of pissy drunk. That's embarrassing.
Speaker 2:And she ain't cursed because she was not going home.
Speaker 1:I heard somebody on the walkie-talkie say wait, ain't security up here?
Speaker 2:It's really bad. I said now what is going on? We don't be the problem at the track.
Speaker 1:We do not be the problem. We are not the problem at the track. We know our limits when it's hot outside. I was dead they be tore down. We need security. It's bad up here y'all fighting what y'all fighting for at the track throwing beers on each other.
Speaker 2:Haha, beers and popcorn.
Speaker 1:What y'all fighting for at the track, throwing beers on each other. Beers and popcorn and glizzies, we had a glizzy past.
Speaker 2:Okay, so that was Thursday.
Speaker 1:Then Friday was when our friends came in town. Y'all saw them on the last episode they came in town. We'all saw them on the last episode they came in town. We did Good Timers JBE. We was real fine, Always Real fine. We pre-gamed at the Dang, we started at the shop. Then we pre-gamed again at the house. Then we drank at the party. Some of us got a little bit more turned up than others. My cousins came.
Speaker 2:My cousin and my sister was there. She came and said she was all going to take her. I said girl the blind leading the blind.
Speaker 1:I said I ain't even driving myself home. You're going to have to take a Lyft or Uber or something.
Speaker 2:I said I got Lyft on my phone.
Speaker 1:I can get y'all Lyft but I ain't gonna be able to, so we got in this?
Speaker 2:no, I wasn't too. You know, I was chilling she got chilling a lot.
Speaker 1:That was a good time. And then Saturday we had a barbecue at my mama's house.
Speaker 2:It was lit that, listen, our barbecues are always gonna be a vibe we tore down, why would we walk in there and turn food up like it?
Speaker 1:when at the barbecue, because we had drunk first. We first of all. We was too drunk the night before to start on time the next day Because we were supposed to start at 2. We didn't start until 6. Dang, we started before 6. We started like prepping before 6.
Speaker 2:But we didn't until like 9.
Speaker 1:We told people to be there at 5. Wasn't nobody ready? No, praise the Lord. But everybody was on one accord. It's like okay, the food ain't ready, let's drink, because if Constance ain't on time, that's what I said Neither her or Amber were on time, so everybody was on the same page.
Speaker 2:There was too much going on.
Speaker 1:It was a good time. I love a good barbecue kickback. Yeah, I love it. Miranda came with the big girl hookah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Her hookah is so cute, you gonna have to get you a big girl hookah. I don't smoke hookah enough. I don't be feeling like doing the whole setup.
Speaker 2:I'm just rolling For your guess. You said I get the mini ones.
Speaker 1:I do get the little, I guess, travel ones. If y'all want to smoke hookah, then y'all can set it up yourself. I'm not setting it up. And then what was that Saturday?
Speaker 2:Sunday was the day party.
Speaker 1:The finale Day party's always going to be a vibe.
Speaker 2:I was late then too, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then Monday I slept all day Like we went and got something to eat. I came back. I was trying to stay up and wait for you to get there. I was knocked out. Then they said they was leaving. I was like, all right, let's take a picture. Got back on the couch.
Speaker 1:And when I say I was knocked out for the take a picture Got back on the couch and when I say I went home to my bed too, I was knocked out For the rest of the day. Look still tired, child, did y'all? How'd y'all do derby Like? Did y'all do it up In Syria like we told y'all to do? Was y'all cute? From what I saw, y'all was cute. Everybody looked really. Y'all was cute. Everybody looked really good. Y'all put it on for 30. Yeah, everybody looked so cute at the track.
Speaker 2:Yeah, hey, I'll tell you what I'm going to have to get me a golf cart.
Speaker 1:I'll drive y'all around. They probably out there making bread Golf carts. Ain't that high People gonna pay whatever to get to the track and get back to that car. And it's tip, it's just tip. I'm gonna have to get a little golf cart. I feel, like at the end when everybody's drunk, they probably getting all kind of tip yeah.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna get one, put it in a little storage or something somewhere by the track and then, when Derby come around, shoot, I got y'all All weekend for real, ain't even just Derby.
Speaker 1:The whole week. The whole week yeah. Yeah, cut off time when you feel like it, think about it. Anything you want to free yourself from. I was just thinking this earlier Because I text.
Speaker 2:This is a transfer moment.
Speaker 1:Because working in the hair industry Is hard yeah. It's so hard and I think on Monday in my head I quit about three times and my phone just kept dinging and dinging and I just I was like I'm putting my phone on, do not disturb, because I couldn't do it anymore.
Speaker 2:So in my head I could about three times and I just had to pray because I was like what else am I going to do now? I have things written down that I want to do, but it's not time for that yet and I feel like I'm going in the correct order of what's supposed to be happening, but I was just like one we do so much.
Speaker 2:First of all, we're human too, so stuff happens, but we try to go above and beyond for people all the time and when you go above and beyond for people all the time, and when you go above and beyond for people, I think that they don't take it into consideration and people will just up and leave you. People who's been coming to you for years will just up and leave or find one thing to be upset about and run with.
Speaker 1:Even if you, you know, do your best to try to accommodate them, it it's never enough. When it comes to her. I feel like people and I might get backlash for it, but oh well and not enough people say I feel like y'all put us at the bottom of the totem pole.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Y'all feel like we yeah, we, the help, y'all feel like we're supposed to service you. Um, you feel like I feel like some people, and I get a lot of people who tell me that what I charge is what I deserve. You could charge more, but I feel like some people feel like we shouldn't make the money that we make. We shouldn't live the life that we live, we shouldn't take the trips, the vacations, we should just be here to service y'all. We should just be here to do your hair, and that's not how that works.
Speaker 1:Why are we not deserving of going on a vacation or taking a break? Because if y'all could just spend a day behind the chair a week, spend a week behind the chair and deal with every single personality that comes into the salon.
Speaker 1:We want to know how you feel at the end of the week. But then I got to thinking. When your client came in today and she got talking about her daughter and stuff, and I told her what I wanted to do, and when she said talking about her daughter and stuff, and I told her what I wanted to do.
Speaker 1:And when she said like was basically cheering me on, that made me feel good inside. And then just doing my clients hair and I was just sitting there thinking and I was like and I was, I quit talking because I was getting ready to like start crying a little bit, because when we was texting me and your mom yesterday just talking about it, it was like, wow, god works really fast.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because I really enjoyed working yesterday and today with my clients that I had, because one of my clients that I told the exact same thing. She was basically like do it, you'll sell out and I'll be there and I want to tell other people about it, and I was like, wow, I can't push those people to the side because of other people who feel like I'm not worth especially because it's a small number compared to right the bigger number, right the clients that make it worth it.
Speaker 1:And I was like, wow, okay, that was confirmation number one. And then just having my last client yesterday and how much she loved her and I just told her when I was like, just trust me, I got you. If it's something that you don't like, we can always change it. But I was like I know that it's gonna work, just relax, it's good.
Speaker 2:Um, and just her end result changed my heart a little bit and then, like my client today, shout out to Tasha, because Tasha always makes sure that she's gonna come in wherever she's at. And she came in from out of town like our friends, came in from my friend booked with me and she lives in north carolina like, and I was just thinking to myself, I was like, I know I this is a temporary feeling but sometimes it's kind of a slap in the face when people treat you that way when you try to do try to do them a service.
Speaker 2:So I was just like, let me let me scale back a little bit.
Speaker 1:I was like do I need to take some some days, like and just take off, because sometimes I'm like and I know it's gonna come a time that I'm not gonna be behind the chair as much. But I was like is it now? I think we don't take enough personal time. Yeah, and people. It's so funny when people Be like oh, you must not want to work, yeah, or you don't never work, or and it like Blows me, pisses me off, yeah, cause it's like what do you mean?
Speaker 1:I don't never work, cause I'm always at work. Like you might choose to try to book late and you see all my slots blocked off on the calendar and that's because they're booked, not because I'm not working. Like that's crazy to me. Um, but no, I said in the car yesterday I was like I have to start taking personal days here and there because I feel myself like burning out sometimes. And I know I love what I do. I know I love my clients. I know that my clients love me.
Speaker 1:Every now and then somebody will sit in my chair that'll throw my energy out, but that's not the vast majority of them and it's not even that often. But when it happens it's like for real. Yeah, like what? And it does throw you off and it like really. It is a slap in the face and you hear like little comments and they'll say it in a joking way, but you know they dead serious. Or when we decided to take those trips in April, or when we decided to take those trips in April, it ain't like we just took all of April off, when we wasn't on vacation or wasn't out of town, we was at the shop and we tried our best to get everybody in, that we could. But when you heard like dang, when you going to be out of town so I can get in First of all, you can't even get sick. Nope, you can't get sick. Don't get in a car accident don't go to the hospital don't have a death in the family.
Speaker 2:Don't do none of that, because they heard it's more important than whatever you got going on, I had, I think, either COVID or strep and the flu and I had, I think, either COVID or strep and the flu and I had a client she had booked.
Speaker 1:She canceled the appointment, of course, because I was sick and I was trying to find somebody else that would fit her in. She went through and canceled all her appointments, All of them. That is insane and I was like I literally have strep in the flu. And because I had to find you a new her stylist for this one appointment, you went through and canceled all of them.
Speaker 1:That's crazy, that's wild to me. And then like, if there is a time that you have to cancel somebody's appointment, which honestly I can say that I've never it's not that often canceled an appointment. I might have moved you around or had to reschedule or something like it. Um, but I've never, like, canceled an appointment. And I'm not saying that I won't, I'm just saying because I know there will be a day where something is gonna come up to where I will have to cancel an appointment.
Speaker 1:But I've seen it happen that a stylist has had to cancel an appointment for something, one of those reasons, and these clients be so mad and they will talk so bad about you and it's like dang, is that how you been feeling about me this whole time? And I really want y'all to understand that I love my clients so much. I really, really love my loyal down clients that been with me through thick and thin, been with me from a lot of y'all been with me through thick and thin, been with me from a lot of y'all, been with me from the very beginning. Um, and some of y'all have just gotten with me, but y'all are still like I really love y'all and I'm gonna hold y'all down. Y'all hold me down, but it's a few of y'all that think that y'all are my only client.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, and that to me is like I am going to try my hardest to do everything that I can to make you happy as a stylist, but know that if you have a request, I have multiple clients that have a request also around the same time as you. So if I take a little bit of time to get back to you or I am very bad at looking at a message or something and responding, in my head and forgetting to respond, and that ain't just like to my clients, I do it to my mama because there's a lot of people hitting you up.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying at this point it's gone over into the personal life because sometimes I be like dang, I ain't even sent that message.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or I might type it up and think I hit, send and didn't or something, but it's like give your stylist grace, is all I'm saying. Give your stylist grace because it's a lot of y'all, we got a lot of clients and I love y'all for it. But just give your stylist grace and quit going on Thankfully our clients don't do this. But quit going online bashing stylists, because for what All you really want is to get a bunch of people in your comments on your bandwagon to make you feel better about whatever had happened.
Speaker 1:Like it's way too many other stylists out here to where, if you have a bad experience with one, go find you another one.
Speaker 2:And we don't mind recommending you to another one. No, if it's something that isn't working, we can find you somebody else. It ain't got to be no beef. No, you know, hate whatever. Just we can find you somebody else.
Speaker 1:We can find you somebody else. I promise you, like we don't have, like Arsalan, we get complimented the most on the vibe in there, on the energy in there, how the energy makes them feel. So if you coming in with bad energy, please check that at the door. I pray over my chair every day because that energy we in y'all's heads and that's where y'all hold most of it. So when we touching y'all's head, that energy we in y'all's heads and that's where y'all hold most of it. So when we touching y'all's head, that energy transfers. And when I say that energy moves through our entire body, it's so hard, like when y'all come in with bad energy, because it shifts the whole atmosphere in our salon. So just be mindful of that also. Like to me, that is one of the like um most impactful things about working in a salon and working with people and doing their hair and stuff is like you gotta be mindful about the energy that sits in your chair and be patient.
Speaker 1:Y'all, on a Friday and Saturday, y'all arena. You know what it is. On a Friday and a Saturday Y'all used to go to the sauna, but now y'all are so spoiled that everybody's in a suite and we getting y'all out in a specific time frame, sometimes not especially on a holiday, holiday, back to school tax time and I'm going to try my best to if I'm running behind to let you know before you get there.
Speaker 1:If it's too far gone, yeah, but sometimes it's like I ain't even looked at the time Right, but we do try to make sure that we stay on schedule and all of that. But y'all, it's just Just be considerate.
Speaker 2:Be considerate. We're human, we are human beings and y'all treat us like robots.
Speaker 1:We're human. We are human beings. We have bad days, just like y'all have bad days.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:And we try like I know for a fact, I try my hardest, even if I am having a bad day, to not let that rub off on you, because you're still a paying customer and you pay for an experience, not just a style, and so I'm going to try to give you that experience every time, even if that means I got to eat whatever I'm going through right now to make sure that you have a good experience, and then deal with that after you leave. Listen, but every now and then we human, and to those that let us vent, to y'all thank you thank you and listen.
Speaker 2:Sometimes we don't even eat. I think last night I didn't eat till 9 o'clock. I started working at 10.
Speaker 1:I did not sit down and eat until I got home at 9 o'clock.
Speaker 2:And you know, I might take a little break in between a steam or whatever, but that doesn't necessarily mean that I'm eating Right.
Speaker 1:I'm just taking a break to get off my feet, so just be considerate, just be considerate. Give your stylist grace. I love my job. I'm not quitting on y'all, I love it, but it was just a little venting session. Yeah, I just needed to get that off because I was like but the blessing in feeling that way sometimes is because I feel like we woke up feeling the exact same way, which was crazy because you sent that text and I had just finished praying like alright, lord, you're going to have to help me today.
Speaker 1:It was a long one too. It was child, it was. I was. I was going through it yesterday morning and then I went and did this girl I went to college with. She was getting married, and so I went and did her hair and makeup for her wedding and instantly started feeling better Turn the day around, yeah.
Speaker 1:Because, like I said, energy transfers and when you have good energy as a client, like you don't realize how much you're helping your stylist. Like I had literally transparent moment, literally just got done, crying in the car. I was like all right, let's wipe these tears. And I prayed, I said Lord, help my mood, Help me to make this bride feel as amazing as possible on her day and just shift my mood and my energy, you know. And so, um, when I get in there, immediately my energy shifted and even though I was helping her on her day, she don't realize how much she helped me in that moment. And then I got to the shop and the clients that I had yesterday. Like it was such a vibe in the shop yesterday.
Speaker 1:It was such a vibe. And, like you said, God works quick.
Speaker 2:Quick because yeah, I mean because y'all, we was me and my me and my first and my second one. My first one was my aunt. We was talking and she was just like it's going to be okay and I told her some other stuff I wanted to do. She said do it because you know there's money in it. But then my second one we was talking and I was like I want to do this. She's like, yeah, she's like because I'll support, I'll be there.
Speaker 1:And she was just breaking it down like pricing and what I need like to for the like it was. Just I was like thank you.
Speaker 2:I needed that. I put it all notes in my phone.
Speaker 1:So for the moms and the daddies because I want to include the daddies I got something coming for y'all. But I was just like wow, okay, he give you what you need he really will give you exactly what you need when you need it like right when you need it, and he'll send the right people to you right when you need it, like not even realizing that the combination of clients that was in there like was the perfect combination of clients like it was just God is good.
Speaker 1:We love our clients. We're going to be considerate to y'all and we just ask that you be considerate with us Please, because if not, I'm going to hand y'all to come, and I want you to do my job for a week.
Speaker 2:Now tell me where you're supposed to start.
Speaker 1:I'm a week, ooh child the store. I'm awake. Ooh child, ooh, I feel free. Good, okay, I got something.
Speaker 2:I want to get off my chest.
Speaker 1:Alright, alright, alright, niggas, sick of them, don't like you. If you are a nigga from my past, talk your talk. And you decide that you saw me, you feel me, and I was looking how I was looking and I'ma look how I'm gonna look and I'ma step how I'ma step. Let me pepper, step up. You feel me, you see the type of energy I'm coming with. You see the glow of energy I'm coming with. You see like, you see the glow, the aura, you see the aura that's around me in this season, and you decide that now is a good time for you to try to spin the block and come back into my life. Do yourself a favor, save it. Don't do that, because I don't want it. Okay, don't get too. Don't get too froggy, because I'm always too self-spy. You feel me. Don't get too cocky because I'm always too self-spy. You feel me, um, don't get too cocky. Yeah, don't buck. Don't think that because you're in a, a space in your life to where maybe you available, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, that you think that I'm available, mm-hmm, um, because I'm not To you, I don't want it like.
Speaker 1:We end it where it was. It was fun while it lasted. Let's just leave it there. Let's move on, let's move on. We have moved on as a thing. So you deciding that you want to spin the block one time? Man, I ain't none of that, no, and I used to. It's so funny because it's, I guess, just a testament to where I am in. Like my life, when that used to happen, like I used to think that, oh, like it was flattering. Oh, he still want me like I still got a little hold on that.
Speaker 1:Ain't even what that is.
Speaker 1:I don't want you and I feel like it's. You just want to see if you still got access to me. That's what it is. I feel like that's what it is, and you keep Mm-hmm, that's what it is, I feel like that's what it is, and you get cocky with it. We'll get you cussed out. Okay, don't, because it to me comes off so selfish. Mm-hmm, because it to me comes off so selfish. It's so selfish because, just because you're at a space in your life that maybe something ain't work out for you, maybe, whatever situation you were, in Now you realize.
Speaker 1:Yeah, whatever situation you was in, you know you thought it was good. Maybe it ended, maybe it ain't end in, but y'all just not in a good space now. Or maybe you just a little lonely right now, or maybe you just you saw me and I look good and you thought you wanted to try it again, or I don't know what it is, but stay over, I'm always look good on the outside. Do you want to get to know what else is going on? No, you don't.
Speaker 2:So leave me where I'm at. Yeah, it's wild out here.
Speaker 1:It's like when I say it was overwhelming, how many came back in my like inbox there's so many more women in Louisville. Whatever it was Like I was like I ain't kidding, but relax, maybe you need some new followers. I need a new city, cause uh, I'm like and it's not even uh to y'all, it's just like what are you doing? Like leave me alone, especially if I have moved completely on. You notice that you not getting no responses from me. You are not getting like a warm, inviting welcome.
Speaker 1:One word answers Leave me alone or no. Answers leave me alone. No, you can't get to know me again.
Speaker 2:No, ain't no point again that's crazy to me.
Speaker 1:Leave me alone. We're not spending the block. And I don't already told y'all that in one of these past episodes and y'all decided to try and I'm trying not to embarrass y'all decided to try it and I'm trying not to embarrass y'all, but leave me alone, that's it. I could say more, but I won't Just leave me alone. Talk your talk.
Speaker 1:Leave me alone, because when y'all had me this is the thing when you had me and I gave you ample opportunity to make it work, to show me that you actually wanted to be here, that you actually wanted to treat me like the queen that I am. I gave you so many opportunities Some of y'all got yours, which is crazy and I gave you way too much time to play with me. And you play with me and now you playing yourself, so leave me where I'm at. I'm not even a lot to handle. There's just a certain way to handle me, period.
Speaker 2:And y'all don't know how to handle me.
Speaker 1:Not even a clue. So if you don't Leave me alone, you know, you don't know how.
Speaker 2:So leave me alone. Y'all ain't no big steppers for real At all.
Speaker 1:I'm really trying to hold back Because y'all got me fucked up.
Speaker 2:Sorry, what if y'all saw a list and just start scrolling up the screen?
Speaker 1:You and you, and you and you and you Leave me alone, like the old albums that used to pop up on the BET.
Speaker 2:Late night BET, they scroll the songs.
Speaker 1:Yep, now, if we did it now, I'm in the wrong. Now I'm in the wrong, it's crazy.
Speaker 2:Now your page going to blow up.
Speaker 1:I don't want nobody from my past. I'ma leave y'all there. I want somebody new and fresh. That's gone.
Speaker 2:With good energy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that knows how to handle me In this season. Because here's the thing when y'all try to spend a block, y'all keep expecting Old mail and then when y'all get this mail, y'all have no clue what to do with her. And then y'all want to keep on giving me that old energy and it just don't work. Leave me alone, keep pushing, keep it peaking. And if you are new and you want to step to me, make sure you ain't got no girlfriend. Talk your talk. That's crazy. That is insane to me. Make sure you ain't got no girlfriend. Make sure you ain't got no girlfriend. Make sure you ain't got no wife. Make sure you ain't got no baby mama that thinks you your girlfriend. Make sure you ain't got none of that. If you gonna come step to me, make sure you are fully Single, available and emotionally available.
Speaker 1:Okay, Period 100% Cause I don't want none of that other stuff. Leave me alone. It's insane out here. What are y'all doing? What are y'all doing? Y'all just playing with people being monkey, being monkey, just be doing stuff. I'm sick of it, todd. I am sick of it.
Speaker 2:That's why I just be like, I be looking at my phone. I'm like Throw it down.
Speaker 1:That's what I needed To free myself from my heart rate. Don't get a little fast. I don't get Woke up a little bit. Why y'all got money.
Speaker 2:But when y'all meet us and then when it's time to get on, they ain't got no money, no more.
Speaker 1:Well, you know I did. It's time to get out on the day.
Speaker 2:I ain't got no money, no more.
Speaker 1:Well, you know, I did have, I used to get I don't care what you used to get when the money at now? Where's the X, where's the money at? What happened that you met me and now, all of a sudden, you done fell on hard times.
Speaker 2:I ain't got none either, so we just ain't gonna be talking because I can't. No, I can't. I think somebody said, uh, what did they say? I don't know if he was joking or not and he was like he was like something about he had to ride the bus or something. And I was like, well, I guess you gotta do what you gotta do do.
Speaker 1:We ain't talk.
Speaker 2:After that he had to ride the bus to what I don't know, to y'all's date or something I don't know we wasn't going on one, because he told me he wasn't taking me out, so we wasn't talking After that either.
Speaker 1:Well, I ain't got. That's why he ain't Taking you out. Word, don't pick me up. Don't pick me up.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna meet you, yeah I won't be able to drive myself home because y'all a little weird nowadays. But I ain't got it, you ain't got it, I ain't got it period.
Speaker 1:Say what you want, y'all wow, that's all y'all.
Speaker 2:Well, y'all had money before we started talking.
Speaker 1:Y'all had a car before we started talking. Now your car's had a car before we started talking. Now your car's in the shop. Anytime I start talking to somebody and all of a sudden that car's in the shop. Nope, what's your car in the shop. For how long have you been in there? Exactly Because I got questions, because my car be in the shop too, but I'm getting a little oil change, a little car rotation, yeah, and I'm sitting there with it.
Speaker 2:But your car been in the shop for a minute. Well, you ain't got no fucking car.
Speaker 1:You ain't got no wheels. It's wild out here.
Speaker 2:I just really feel like God is elevating us to a new caliber, and you know when we was, everywhere we went, the men that Was around it was like Mmhmm, mmhmm, okay, they out there. And they might be trash too, but you know they might get a little Exactly.
Speaker 1:Before, during and after.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Well, you know.
Speaker 1:I am a weak. It's a little rough out here. I got it to take me out Period.
Speaker 2:I'm going to get me a little burger or something.
Speaker 1:This kind of segues into something that I want to talk about. I was watching, I think, b Simone's podcast.
Speaker 1:And she was talking about the difference between self-love and self-worth and she was like For the difference between self-love and self-worth. And she was like for a long time I was like dang like, did I just not love myself? And she was like, no, I always loved myself, Like I had a strong sense of self-love. She said, but I didn't have self-worth, Like I didn't know what my worth was, and I was like you might be on to something, because I feel like I was in the same boat for a long time and didn't realize why I was attracting a certain caliber of men like and when I say caliber, I'm talking about like caliber, as in how they treated me um, but I did I.
Speaker 1:I feel like I've loved myself, but I'm a. I looked up the definitions of both.
Speaker 1:So the read on, read on, you know so it says the meaning of self-worth is a sense of one's own value as a human being, self-esteem. And then it says self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love also means not settling for less than what you deserve. But then when I saw that last part, settling for less than what you deserve, if your self-worth is low, then what you think you deserve is also low, and when it clicks that you deserve more, that's when that self-worth that, uh, where you said with that self-love, hold on, let me go, uh, let me see where is it at self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.
Speaker 1:And so, with that, when you start to elevate and you do like you already got the self-love right, but when you start realizing your self-worth. People will make you feel selfish for that self-love and you lose your self-worth. Been there, done that, and it takes a lot to get that back. I think, when you move on from those people too, it comes back.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And it's just a matter of finding the right person that's going to understand that I know my self-worth and I love myself, gonna understand that I know my self-worth and I love myself. And when you do the work to um, build your self-esteem up. That self-worth starts to become unshakable, like even if somebody does come into your life and they don't get it or don't click for them where they think you're being selfish or something you'd be like no, I'm not but if you can't rise to the occasion or meet my standard, then you're just not the person for me and that's okay, right.
Speaker 1:We're just not gonna work out. But one thing that I do remember is when we went to Change Church and Pastor Darius Daniels said he was speaking on standards and how he said oh I wrote it down.
Speaker 1:You know I wrote notes down. I have wrote so many daggone notes, girl. I got a page. What he say about standards. Okay, he said standards are the least that you will allow. So it's like if you can't even come with this, if you can't come with money during the date you had it before, you ain't got it during, what's your standard? But he also said that it's not a standard. Or he also said Standards is what you keep allowing. So you might say that, oh, this is my standard, but if you keep on allowing less than that, then it's not a standard. It sounds good.
Speaker 2:It sounds good.
Speaker 1:But you're not sticking to it. But he also said that a standard is not a standard if you're not willing to suffer for it. And that hit me so hard because I was like people will tell you your standards are too high, mm-hmm. If you get decent standards by society's standards, your standards are too high, mm-hmm, let's start there. But people will tell you that your standards are too high and that's why you still single. Stay single Period. Stay single. Because if you are not and when he said said if you're not willing to suffer for it all the time being single is not fun, no like. But it's worth it. It's worth it. I thoroughly am pleased with the fact that I'm not in a relationship where I'm being disrespected, cheated on, treated like trash, like I'm. I'm thankful that I have my peace in my singleness, but that don't mean, I don't get lonely right that don't mean that I don't wish I had a partner right.
Speaker 1:That don't mean that I don't want love, and sometimes I do feel like you're suffering.
Speaker 2:Because you have these standards.
Speaker 1:But I also know that if I continue to accept less than that, I'm going to suffer in that Choose your suffering. I'm going to choose over her and it's hard, but you can do it. Yeah, you can do it. You can absolutely do it Like I would. It's worth it in the end. You're going to be lonely if you have standards and boundaries set Mm-hmm For a period. That's not to say you're going to be lonely for the rest of your life. You're just gonna be lonely until you find your person that can actually meet your standards. But don't settle in that season just because you suffering, right, uh, because when you do know your self-worth and you do know your value and you do know what you bring to the table, you do know, like, what our God has equipped you with. You're not just going to give that to just anybody, not at this point.
Speaker 1:No, not at this point. We done been or done that. Yeah, it's at this point we not doing that no more. So know your worth, and if you don't do the work to find out, Pray about it.
Speaker 2:It's rewarding in the end.
Speaker 1:It's so rewarding when you really, really do the work, because it doesn't always come down to just relationship. It don't always come down to you finding your self-worth and loving yourself, just so that you can find a man. Mm-hmm, like there's so much more to life outside of it's rewarding when you meet people in certain industries.
Speaker 2:Because I feel like when you don't have that self-worth, you're not even put in rooms that you're supposed to be in, mm-hmm, like Because you're not confident enough to even.
Speaker 1:You don't get the jobs that you Think that you're supposed to have or feel like you deserve. So nah, it's not just for A relationship, yeah. So Do the work y'all. Stay, be steadfast In whatever season that you are in, and learn the lessons Like. Really learn them, though, like don't try that uh shadow box, shadow root, shadow work. What is it I need to?
Speaker 1:look it up, but it's, I feel like it's basically like what, what your mama's doing, just like going like it's a what I saw was a workbook and it's just, I guess, mostly stuff to work on yourself, like just letting out different things and working on stuff that you might be honing in or didn't know that you was going through yeah so, and if you don't know, like cause we heard, do the work all the time.
Speaker 1:And some people, a lot of people, just don't know where to start, do some research. Yeah, ask around, try a therapist. That's where I started. Yeah, because I didn't know and it was like you can't always talk to your friends about something.
Speaker 2:I was like I need a therapist and I need a new one. So if you know a therapist, that's going to respond, and they will respond to emails. Please let me know, because I need a new one.
Speaker 1:But um yeah therapy, therapy, therapy works, for sure. Um, also switch up what you listening to, what you're watching, what you're reading, like all of that stuff matters. Yeah, All of that stuff matters, Like your subconscious holds a whole lot. So all of the things that you're taking in through your ears, through your eyes, through your mouth, through all of that really like plays a part in who you are as a person.
Speaker 2:So speak positive over your life.
Speaker 1:Yes, please, because when you don't, yes, please. Cause. When you don't, and even when you struggle To speak positively, if you Feel like A negative thought or negative words Coming up, like, try to combat it with Something positive. It's easier said than done, but it's doable. Just cause something's hard Don't mean it's not doable yeah, it's, it's yeah listen, because I've been there. I was that person.
Speaker 2:I have my day still still but doing the work.
Speaker 1:It's an ongoing process.
Speaker 1:It's not gonna ever end because you're gonna forever be evolving as a person so you're gonna forever have to be doing work to make sure that you are becoming the person that you want to be and that you are attracting the things and the people that you want in your life and that you deserve. And if you feel like what you deserve is super low On the totem pole, then you probably need to do some Some self work. But yeah, that's all I had Y'all. If you are not subscribed To our channel, what are you doing? If you are not following us On Instagram and TikTok? You should be. What are you doing? It's crazy like y'all be following everything else.
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Speaker 1:Got 177 subscribers on YouTube. We at 177 on YouTube and our goal is 200 on YouTube right now. That's the first. Well, that ain't the first goal, but that's the goal right now. It's 200 subscribers on YouTube and I promise y'all I know I promised y'all before, but life got a little busy I promise y'all I'm going to get Deanna to learn this Tamiya dance If y'all just get us to 200, and then we can learn it together. It's going to be so fun. 200 on YouTube, 400 on Instagram it's so easy Just click the button.
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